If your relationships keep hitting dead ends and the guys you’re talking to keep ghosting you, knowing how to make him miss you could be just the trick to breaking out of your rut.
In some ways modern technology has made dating easier than ever before. There are dozens of apps to help you meet guys, hundreds of ways to interact with just a of the thumb, and endless ways to stay in constant contact.
In a world that is always connected, the difference between a short fling and the real thing could be a little bit of disconnection. So today we’re going to talk about how to avoid the trap of constant connection by learning how to make him miss you.
Why is Making Him Miss You so Important?
So often when people think about playing hard to get or making a guy miss you, they think about playing games and manipulating feelings. But in reality, missing someone is a vital component in romance.
See, romance is like fire. Both begin with a spark, sometimes unexpectedly, and need a steady supply of fuel to keep growing and spreading. When properly maintained they can last for a lifetime, but without enough air both romances and fires will suffocate.
In order for your relationships to thrive, both people have to enough room to breathe. You have to have the space to miss each other so that being together is even more meaningful. When you let your guy miss you, you give him a chance to crave you and to appreciate how much better things are when you’re together.
So don’t think of making him miss you as a mind trick to make him chase you. Think of it as a necessary part of your chemistry, and something you both need.
How to Make Him Miss You
Before we get into the specific steps you should take to make him miss you, lets pause to remember the goal of all this:
Giving him the space to realize how much he wants to be with you.
We're not trying to make him wonder what in the world happened to you, or make him think you lost interest so he'll try to win you back. We're giving the flame some air, not abandoning it to burn out.
So as you read through these steps, make sure they apply to your flame. If it's been burning for a while but starting to get low, you might take different steps than someone who just lit the spark and is trying to get the fire going.
1. Make Him Want You
In order for any of these steps to work, you have to give your guy something to miss.
Whether it’s your sense of humor, your great conversations, the way you flirt, or one of your many other admirable qualities, you want your man to feel like something is missing when you’re not around and get him to want you in order to fill that void.
So as you’re figuring out how to make him want you, think about your best traits and try to figure out which ones he appreciates the most. Then, use those traits to strengthen your bond so that when you’re apart he’ll be itching to see you again.
2. Play Hard To Get
Even though it’s one of the oldest dating techniques, a lot of women are still in the dark about how to play hard to get effectively.
Playing hard to get isn’t about holding in your feelings to keep him guessing or confusing him with mixed signals. It’s about giving yourself value and requiring that he do the same. Men want a woman they admire and respect, they just have to be reminded of that fact sometimes.
So if he invites you to do something you’d really like to do, do it. And if you have feelings for him, let him know.
But don’t let him take you for granted, and don’t be a safe fallback for when his other plans fall through. Be hard to get, and he’ll realize that if he wants you he’s going to have to put in some effort.
3. Make Time for Friends
One big problem that new couples have is that they spend all their free time alone together and stop hanging out with friends.
It’s only natural to want to be together as much as possible in the beginning, but spending time with friends is a great way to make him miss you. Plus it lets him see new sides of you to fall for.
When you make time to hang out with friends apart from your man, you show him that other people value you and want to be with you, which naturally makes him miss you.
And when you and your guy hang out with a group of friends together, the way you interact with other people will show him more aspects of your personality, giving him a more complete image of who you are. Plus, making him share your attention with others will make him miss you even though you’re together.
4. Drop an Anchor
One of the best ways to make him miss you is by creating a memory anchor. A memory anchor is an experience, event, or situation that reminds him of you, so that every time he thinks about that thing you’ll pop in his mind right along with it.
The beauty of memory anchors is they can be anything. It could be a specific song you both sang along to on the jukebox, an amazing meal you shared, or a walk through a particular part of town.
Once that memory anchor is created, every time he hears that tune, smells those ingredients, or passes through that area you’ll be on his mind.
5. Disappear (Briefly)
This last step may seem a little obvious, but your guy can’t miss you if you never leave.
So every once in a while, go somewhere and do something without him. Take a road trip with your friends or go on that out of town business trip. It doesn’t have to be far and it doesn’t have to be for long, but just like Joni Mitchell, The Neighborhood, Moya Brennan, Amy Grant, and Counting Crows said…
Don't it always seem to go that you don’t know what you got till it’s gone?
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Whether you're still figuring out how to get a boyfriend or working on improving the relationship you're already in, now that you know how to make him miss you...
Your romance has the air it needs to burn hot and bright.