Jasper | May 19, 2021 | 0
How To Flirt With A Guy - 3 Easy ways to avoid rejection!
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Is not knowing how to flirt with a guy keeping you from connecting with your crush?
Or is it just one of many questions you're wondering while you figure out how to get a boyfriend?
Flirting is tricky because it looks different for everyone, so sometimes the best thing you can do is to be ready for when the moment is right. That's why in this article, not only will I be helping you figure out what to say, I'll also be helping you figure out how to put yourself in the best possible flirting situation.
So stop stressing about how to flirt with a guy. We're gonna figure this out together.
Why is Knowing How to Flirt With A Guy Important?
Electric, hear pounding flirting is all about being in the moment...
That's the only way to improvise in this situation, whether that's knowing exactly how you should phrase your joke or sensing the perfect moment to lean in close,
But it's impossible to be in the moment if you're panicking because you don't know how to flirt!
Knowing how to flirt with a guy takes the pressure out of the situation so you can relax, be yourself, and live in the moment. It will make flirting fun and exciting...
Instead of nerve wracking and stressful.
How To Flirt With A Guy
I hate to break it to you, dear reader...
But as I'm teaching you how to flirt with a guy, I won't be telling you exactly what to say, when to touch him, or just how long and loud you should laugh at his jokes.
In order for me to give you advice that specific, I'd have to actually be in the room with you - reading the vibes and rhythm of the interaction. So instead, I'm going to give you the tools you need to flirt with confidence by helping you create the right situations and attract the right kind of men for you.
That way, when you spot a guy who makes your heart skip a beat you'll be ready to jump right in and be your authentic self.
Here is how to flirt with a guy:
1. Know Where To Meet Men
It might not be the first thing that comes to your mind when you think of learning how to flirt, but learning where to meet men is key to hitting it off with any cute guys you meet.
Everyone knows that location is key when it comes to choosing a place to work or a place to live, but it's also key when it comes to choosing a place to flirt. You should be looking for places where you feel comfortable and welcome, with an atmosphere that will give you what you're looking for.
So if you're in your element in witty conversations that quickly get deep, you're going to want to meet men in places where you can actually hear each other speak and that will help spark conversation. But if you really shine on a dance floor or in energy-rich environments, go places where the mood is right and the music suits your style.
See, the truth is there are guys just about everywhere. Finding guys to flirt with is all about selecting the right environment.
2. Start A Conversation With A Guy
Ladies, we are living in a brave new world, and waiting patiently for a guy you're eyeing to make the first move is a thing of the past.
Some women are hesitant to make the first move because they don't want to come on too strong and risk scaring away a prospective date... but if the guy you're talking to can't handle the fact that you approached him first, he probably can't handle all you have to offer anyways. Knowing how to start a conversation with a guy can help you narrow down your options to the guys you're most likely to get along with.
And it will help make sure you set yourself up for a conversation that actually goes somewhere - not just the normal "you come here often?" kind of stuff.
So if you find yourself making eyes with a guy from across the room, don't wait there with your fingers crossed hoping that he'll come over and say something. You can start that first conversation too, and guide it in a direction that you actually want it to go.
Pro Tip 1. Know a few questions to ask a guy you like
If your conversation should ever happen to run dry, knowing a few questions to ask a guy you like can really come in handy.
I wouldn't recommend stringing them all back to back - that could get a little awkward. But having a conversation starter ready to go is a great way to keep things going with your crust.
Pro Tip 2. How to text him
In most modern relationships, conversations are just as likely to happen via text as they are out loud or face to face.
So if you're wondering, "Should I text him?" the answer is almost always yes! Listen, he gave you his number and we're all on our phones all the time anyways. Sending him a text random text message is a completely normal thing to do, and you shouldn't feel weird about it at all.
If he's feeling the same thing you are, he'll be overjoyed to see your name pop up on his lock screen. Send him a picture of something you saw that made you laugh, or a quick message that references something you talked about earlier. It's a great way to spark a conversation any time.
3. Know How To Attract Men
Every article you read will have definitive proof that the newest trends and techniques are making all the old ones obsolete. Everyone has a different idea of how to attract men, but just like flirting, attraction is incredibly individual...
So believing an article you read would apply perfectly to your specific would be a little ridiculous. Instead, think about the best parts of yourself - your sense of humor, your passion, your creativity, or whatever it might be - and put your energy into building up and showing off those qualities.
Give your crush a good reason to be attracted to you by showing him how special you are. He'll be attracted to your willingness to be yourself, and you won't have to pretend to be someone you're not.
Pro Tip 1. Know how to get a boy like you
If you can feel the pull of mutual attraction and want the feeling to last beyond this one conversation, you're going to need to know how to get a boy to like you. And to do that, we need to figure out what exactly what it means to like somebody.
To get him crushing and motivate him to make sure he sees you again, you have to make sure you stick out in his mind. The way you stick out will depend on your personality and your individual strengths, but he should leave with you on his mind and the feeling that no matter what, he's got to see you again.
Pro Tip 2. Make him miss you
One problem fledgling relationships run into is having too much contact much too fast. You can get so caught up with your crush that you almost immediately become inseparable.
You and your crush need some space to breathe in the early stages of a relationship, otherwise the spark can get smothered or things that would be no big deal suddenly become earth-shattering. That's why knowing how to make him miss you can help actually help keep the interest alive and knowing how to play hard to get the right way can actually be a brilliant strategy.
Just remember to come up for every now and then. Give him the chance to miss you, otherwise you might get sick of each other.
More Ways On How To Get The Guy
Looking for more tips to help you get the guy you've been looking for? Check out these other posts:
- If all you know is "I want a boyfriend" we can help you take the first steps.
- Figure out why men pull away and what to do when you see it starting.
- This is how to tell if a guy likes you at work.
With these three steps to help you approach the age old how to flirt with a guy dilemma, you should feel confident finding a place to meet men, striking up a conversation, and making sure you stick out in his mind.
Now that you know all that, you're well on your way to figuring out how to get a boyfriend. But not just any boyfriend... someone who's actually right for you!